According to a worldwide study of 500 couples, the average duration of sexual intercourse (between penetration and ejaculation) is 5.4 minutes. You don’t do as well, hugs understood? We’ll give you a few tips on how to last longer during sex.
Chat with your partner
Make love for a good hour, while deep down your partner would be very satisfied with a little ten minutes (shower included). Maybe you’re setting the bar too high.
It is important to talk about your desires, fears, and erection problems with your half (or ass plan). It’s of course easier to do it with someone you’ve known for a long time and/or who inspires confidence.
Take breaks or think of something incongruous
You can take a break by withdrawing (or not). “What to do in the meantime?” you ask. Looking at each other in the white of your eyes until the pressure drops? Why not, otherwise you can also take care of your partner with something other than your penis.
By changing the pace during penetration to a slower tempo, you can also lower the pressure.
For some men, distraction helps prevent ejaculation. What could be better than doing the mental calculations, thinking about your shopping list, tax issues, your job, someone you don’t like, etc., to cool down.
Exercise and have a good lifestyle to maintain their erection
This involves strengthening the pelvic floor muscles (when you prevent yourself from peeing in the long line for the toilet, they are the ones you are asking for). The easiest way to practice is to pretend (or not) to stop urinating for 5 seconds.
Sports, eating 5 organic fruits and vegetables a day, avoiding drinking, smoking, taking narcotics, and eating too fast can also help you have better control of your body.
Also knowing your body through masturbation helps to control your erection and ejaculation. How? When you feel that ejaculation is not far away, stop everything. Repeat three to four times, then let things come (your sperm, in this case).
Don’t focus sex around penetration
Making love can’t be reduced to a few foreplay, followed by penetration and finally, ejaculation. Moreover, these practices called preliminary practices can constitute the heart of the report: intimate caresses, fellatio, cunnilingus, etc. The possibilities are almost endless.
Are there any medications to last longer in bed?
Ejaculation medication, prescribed by a doctor, was approved for marketing in 2013. This is dapoxetine, which belongs to the family of antidepressants. At the same time, several health reviews have denounced a benefit-risk ratio that is not beneficial to patients and the side effects that can accompany taking treatment (mood disorders, digestive disorders, etc.).
In early 2018, an anesthetic spray was released. Again, the journal Prescrire cautioned against its adverse effects: inability to ejaculate (it’s funny), erectile disorders, redness, decreased sensitivity, decreased sperm mobility. And in the partner: itching, burning sensations, loss of sensitivity, pain.
Other medical devices exist for men who want to delay their ejaculation. Some people are satisfied with delaying condoms, which contain a small dose of local anesthetic.
Tips to last longer during sex
Exercise
No, it’s not about going to the gym and doing thousands of rehearsals with your arms, legs, and back. Experts say you should work the muscles of your pelvic floor, doing contraction exercises while maintaining tension for about 10 seconds, explains Sandra Hilton, doctor of entropy physiotherapy. To feel these muscles, Hilton says, try to “stop the flow of urine when you’re in the toilet” – these are the same muscles you need to work with.
Limiting movement
This does not mean that you have to imitate a table, but that you have to make more controlled and slower movements. This should delay the time you get to orgasm and help you hold longer.
Making a difference
“As with exercise, your body may be used to the same movements as usual, so you have to try to alternate between different positions to last longer during sex,” explains Vanessa Marin, a licensed sexologist, in Bustle. Changing position allows your body to take a little break, and it helps you last longer. Another recommendation is to try more acrobatic positions because, by focusing on maintaining balance, your brain takes a little longer to experience pleasure and this prevents you from ending up too quickly.
Edging
Delaying orgasm is one of the most effective ways to last longer. According to Dr. Walsh, this is one of the most common techniques to prevent premature ejaculation. Basically, you get to the brink of orgasm before stopping any sexual or masturbatory activity until you have your emotions under control, which teaches the brain to have a more controlled response.
Preliminary
Most women need stimulation before traditional sex. Preliminaries can help you achieve this without reaching orgasm yourself, so both will be ready at the same time. This will avoid the problem of ending too early.
The right diet
Just as alcohol or very heavy foods can prevent you from giving your best. There are foods that are great allies when it comes to lasting longer. Watermelon, chili, apple, ginger, salmon, banana, and nuts all contain nutrients that improve libido, performance, and even endurance.
A little anesthesia?
You shouldn’t do this before seeing a doctor, but in 2017, a small study found that applying wipes coated with a small amount of benzocaine, a mild anesthetic, can help you last longer during sex. The problem is that wipes can have the same effect on your partner, says Dr. David Samadi, a New York-based urologist.